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Clove: The Oil of Boundaries

Clove is hot and spicy and you know what those scents bring on: more clarity!

This time though the clarity is in our boundaries. Energetically, mentally, and emotionally, Clove assists in promoting healthy boundaries, helping a person feel empowered and encouraged to stand strong and break patterns of being victimised. Victims feel very influenced by others and external circumstances. They perceive themselves as powerless to change their life circumstances so Clove helps these individuals by allowing them to stand up for their needs and speaking for themselves.

Clove may also help a person struggling with codependency, or those who find themselves too dominating or crossing the boundaries of others by also learning to stand independent of others. Along these lines, it might help a person learn to not care so much about what others think, and learn to love and accept themselves. Clove helps you reconnect to your sense of personal integrity with all the appropriate boundaries and defenses at play.

If you’re a pushover, Clove will give you the courage to say “NO”. When I started to get on the “No” train and began honoring MY needs, I found a new sense of empowerment and inner soul-fire which helped me break free of patterns of being taken advantage of by others. It was uncomfortable to realise I had been taken for granted most of my life because of my kindness but Clove is brutal like that in providing deep insight into your emotional discomforts.

How many times has something happened to you only to find out later there actually was a hidden meaning behind it? For me, once I began to tune into this, I noticed it happening all the time! But it was about seven years ago that I realised that every time I really just didn’t want to go to work that day, I would manifest something that would self-sabotage it and I would have to go in to work anyway. That was how I learned how to honor my need to “take a day off”. I wasn’t acknowledging that I needed a day off and to just take it. That taught me how to be nourishing to myself.

So, Clove can help us in this respect. It helps us reflect on the causes of our sabotaging behaviours and assists us in releasing them because they no longer serve us. Clove insists that individuals live true to themselves and the Divine by establishing clear boundaries.

Blends Well With

Clove blends well with: Basil, Bergamot, Cinnamon, Clary Sage, Grapefruit, Lavender, Lemon, Peppermint, Rose, Rosemary, Wild Orange and Ylang Ylang.

Don’t Have This Oil?

Depending on your uses for this oil, substitutes may include: Cinnamon or Oregano.

Usage Tips

Always dilute and test for skin sensitivity prior to widespread use and use on the feet when possible. Excessive use of any oil can lead to skin sensitisation. Keep out of eyes, ears, or nose. Not all oils are created equal, so test brands carefully, and never use an oil in a way not recommended by its maker.

Oil information from: “Emotions and Essential Oils: A Modern Resource for Healing” and “The Essential Life”